Polite Notice: When it’s your turn, if you are talking on your cellphone, we will help the next customer.

If you make a mess on the kitchen counter, wipe it up. If you use a dish, clean it. If the dishwasher is full of clean dishes, empty it. 

If you drink the last cup of coffee, make a new pot. Your mother doesn’t live here.

While somewhat funny, each of those notices is a cry for help from service staff exasperated by their customers’ impolite behavior.

If you pay attention, you can see breaches in etiquette everywhere you look. For example, anyone who has ever watched people at a hotel’s breakfast buffet load up their bags with enough calories to fuel a football team has witnessed a classic guest etiquette fail. While normal customers are enjoying a bowl of cereal or a pancake, those “other” people are squirreling away yogurt, bagels, bananas, sausage and anything else they can get their hands on. 

No doubt, the hotel staff shake their heads in disbelief each and every morning they encounter such a scene, but short of a bag search at the buffet’s exit, is there anything that can be done to change customer behavior? Fortunately, yes.

As providers trying to deliver a great experience to customers, businesses need to identify what they want and don’t want their customers to do, and pinpoint what people and processes they can put in place to realize the desired results. 

Step One – Audit

Experience your business from your customer’s vantage point — and in the case of portable sanitation, the end user’s experience. You need to understand what happens to them before you can encourage or discourage behaviors.

Step Two – Encourage What You Do Want

Next, identify the actions you want your customers and end users to take, and put people and processes in place to encourage those behaviors. For example, if you want dry counters in your bathrooms, look at your sinks. Are they designed well, or do they spray water everywhere? 

By providing hand dryers instead of paper towels, have you deprived customers of a way to clean up after themselves? If you provide towel dispensers, does your service staff pack them so tightly that customers will destroy several dozen paper towels before leaving behind a wash basin filled with sodden confetti and hands still damp? 

What about your employees? Do you train your staff to wipe down countertops — even if “housekeeper” isn’t part of their official title? Do you model good behavior yourself?

Step Three – Invite Customers to Participate in the Process

Like anyone else, most customers are more willing to help you reach your service goals if you remind them of the mutual benefit of lending a hand. Let folks know what they can do to aid the common cause and make it easy for them to do it. Consider that bathroom with the perpetually wet countertops. Is there a sign of some sort explaining the desired state and what customers should do if they encounter something different? 

Something such as, “We make every effort to keep our sink counters dry and free of debris. If they or some other aspect of this restroom is in need of servicing, please tell any of our employees or call us so we can make it right. Many thanks!” could make a big difference. 

Such a notice makes clear your commitment to customer service, and it suggests an easy way for customers to take action and help you make good on that commitment. 

Step Four – Discourage What You Don’t Want

Beyond communicating your desired end (for example, tidy restroom counters) and encouraging customers to participate in achieving it, you need to ensure that you and your staff are not working against yourselves by inadvertent enablement. Take, for example, the over-full paper towel dispenser. You want tidy restroom counters? Then have the person whose job it is to replenish paper towels service the dispensers more frequently and restock them with fewer towels. That isn’t rocket science, but it will require close management and frequent correction for a couple of weeks until that new practice becomes a matter of routine.  

Step Five – Create Alternatives 

Sometimes, no matter how hard you try, customers continue to behave in ways you don’t like. While it’s not always possible to creatively accommodate these people, often it is. 

Consider the problem of abandoned shopping carts in a big box store’s parking lot. Those unmanned vehicles tie up spaces that would otherwise be available, they’re potentially dangerous, and they make the outside of the store look uncared for. To solve the problem, a business might first liberally place cart return areas throughout its lot and send an associate outside several times an hour to gather any strays. The company might also post signs asking people to bring carts to the store as they arrive for shopping. 

If those actions don’t have the desired impact, the company might adopt a rental cart system where customers deposit a quarter to access a cart and get their quarter back upon the cart’s return. While some people will forgo the quarter for convenience, others will gladly police the lot to retrieve a free 25 cents.

Whatever the solution, it should never berate customers or accuse them. Instead, keep the message positive. Here’s an example in a hotel setting — “Due to the popularity of many of our room items, housekeeping now sells alarm clocks, sheets, towels, lamps and other merchandise found in your suite. If you wish to purchase something, please contact the front desk or simply take the item home with you. We’ll gladly charge the credit card we have on file. Enjoy your stay, and let us know if we can be of service to you.”

The message is clear. The hotel does not intend for guests to own the items they’re using, but if they want to do so, they can certainly be accommodated.

Left up to chance, you get what you get from customers, but with an understanding of your customers’ experience and deliberate choices, you can influence how people behave.